When a loved one has depression (and how you can help)

As someone who deals with depression, I compiled this list in hopes of helping those who may have a loved one dealing with the same.

Some may be in the dark on what to do when we have those down days, but hopefully this can shed some light on what we may need in those moments.

This list isn't one size fits all, some people may need different things; but these are what resonate with me.

🌻 Be there - If you notice they're in one of their down moments, just be there. It's really THAT easy. You don't need to say anything. Just. Be. There. Knowing someone sees them and acknowledges where they are right now can give that extra boost to keep pushing.

🌻 Be present - If your loved one needs you in one of their most vulnerable times, being present is key to them continuing to see you as a safe place. It's okay to stop watching that show or scrolling on your phone for a few; your loved one needs you.

🌻 Be patient - They're doing the best they can to function day to day and be there for others all while dealing with their illness. Some days will be worse than others but they are doing the best they can. What they need is your support not criticism when these times come. Give some grace!

🌻 If they withdraw, don't take it personally - I've experienced in my own life when I shut down and go into my shell, the people around me take it to heart then get upset with me. When my whole shut down has absolutely nothing to do with them. Don't YOU do your loved one like that! They're withdrawing to deal with the overwhelming anxiety and weight of everything that's happening. They're withdrawing to keep from lashing out at you when they don't want to. If you know you haven't done anything, just check in and if they let you know what it is - give them a little space.

🌻 Listen - Simple, right? If they open up to you, just listen. This is not the time for you to offer advice (unless they ask.) This is not the time for you to circle this back to you. This is not the time to downplay what they're experiencing. Listen. Absorb. Validate. Empathize. Just. LISTEN.

🌻 Love them - With everything you have. And a little more on those days when the illness tries to convince them that no one does.

For those with depression:

You are NOT alone. 💚
You are STRONGER than your illness. 💚
You ARE loved. 💚